When a man is chasing a woman he often drowns her in attention and when the guy thinks he's caught the fair maiden he stops giving her as much attention and the poor maiden wonders what the hell is going wrong? Doesn't he care about me anymore?
This can be extremely upsetting for the poor maiden.
Especially when the maiden is considering the man for a starring role in her life.
I am told by a reliable source that men make up their mind - 'I like her, I am gonna hang around, done deal', all is settled in his mind and he goes back to his regular schedule. This is the part of a relationship where people start organizing weddings so the maiden is still being showered with attention.
I am not keen on thinking that women's and men's brains are essentially different, but men's brains do seem to be geared towards concentrating on tasks, and women's brains are geared towards relationships. Whether this is the result of genetics or wiring that occurs as our brains develop, I am not sure, but I doubt its hard-wired because our brains are so adaptable.
The evolution story would go: Men are dedicated to a single task such as hunting, where the men are all old enough to take care of themselves and to cooperate, very likely in a hierarchical way. Women, on the other hand, are gathering nuts and berries and caring for the very young with other women and the elderly. She has to pay attention to many things and people.
The role of modern women is similar, in general, as her brain concentrates on relationships is quite possibly because her role in the household is to continually monitor her children and husband. Women have to constantly monitor where her children are to make sure they aren't killing themselves as they wander about the house oblivious to all its dangers. Meanwhile she has to monitor her husband to ensure he's getting the attention he needs so he will continue coming back to supply her with the money she needs to raise their children so he won't go off with his secretary.
As her children grow older the mother must continue to monitor her children to make sure they are eating enough, getting the grades they need, aren't getting into too much trouble, while continuing to monitor her husband to make sure he doesn't run off.
Most successful marriages have to find a way of satisfying the woman's desire to monitor her partner without being too intrusive. If the woman doesn't get the acknowledgement she needs, possibly destructive patterns will develop in the relationship. She depends on his love and she must know if he still cares. If she doesn't get the right signals, this is likely when their relationship will start to fail.
This is no doubt a problem for women in business. A woman in business with subordinates is probably going to over monitor those people working with her, especially those who she has the highest hopes for but have given her mixed messages. If the job isn't done well, she's going to be the one who is different from the rest, she's the one who is going to look worst amongst her peers, who, more-than-likely, will be male. Or if its her business, imagine how she will react if it looks like it is going to fail, its her investment, her life, imagine a mother watching her child die? Male managers tend to be much less involved in monitoring, letting others get on with their jobs. Of course there is always some form of reckoning in business.
Also there are few role models for women to choose from in the corporate world. Personally I've been extremely disappointed with the women in CEO positions in Silicon Valley who basically act like men. Women tend to operate with a flatter structure than men's standard hierarchical system and business is going to have to adapt to let women function in business.
This can be extremely upsetting for the poor maiden.
Especially when the maiden is considering the man for a starring role in her life.
I am told by a reliable source that men make up their mind - 'I like her, I am gonna hang around, done deal', all is settled in his mind and he goes back to his regular schedule. This is the part of a relationship where people start organizing weddings so the maiden is still being showered with attention.
I am not keen on thinking that women's and men's brains are essentially different, but men's brains do seem to be geared towards concentrating on tasks, and women's brains are geared towards relationships. Whether this is the result of genetics or wiring that occurs as our brains develop, I am not sure, but I doubt its hard-wired because our brains are so adaptable.
The evolution story would go: Men are dedicated to a single task such as hunting, where the men are all old enough to take care of themselves and to cooperate, very likely in a hierarchical way. Women, on the other hand, are gathering nuts and berries and caring for the very young with other women and the elderly. She has to pay attention to many things and people.
The role of modern women is similar, in general, as her brain concentrates on relationships is quite possibly because her role in the household is to continually monitor her children and husband. Women have to constantly monitor where her children are to make sure they aren't killing themselves as they wander about the house oblivious to all its dangers. Meanwhile she has to monitor her husband to ensure he's getting the attention he needs so he will continue coming back to supply her with the money she needs to raise their children so he won't go off with his secretary.
As her children grow older the mother must continue to monitor her children to make sure they are eating enough, getting the grades they need, aren't getting into too much trouble, while continuing to monitor her husband to make sure he doesn't run off.
Most successful marriages have to find a way of satisfying the woman's desire to monitor her partner without being too intrusive. If the woman doesn't get the acknowledgement she needs, possibly destructive patterns will develop in the relationship. She depends on his love and she must know if he still cares. If she doesn't get the right signals, this is likely when their relationship will start to fail.
This is no doubt a problem for women in business. A woman in business with subordinates is probably going to over monitor those people working with her, especially those who she has the highest hopes for but have given her mixed messages. If the job isn't done well, she's going to be the one who is different from the rest, she's the one who is going to look worst amongst her peers, who, more-than-likely, will be male. Or if its her business, imagine how she will react if it looks like it is going to fail, its her investment, her life, imagine a mother watching her child die? Male managers tend to be much less involved in monitoring, letting others get on with their jobs. Of course there is always some form of reckoning in business.
Also there are few role models for women to choose from in the corporate world. Personally I've been extremely disappointed with the women in CEO positions in Silicon Valley who basically act like men. Women tend to operate with a flatter structure than men's standard hierarchical system and business is going to have to adapt to let women function in business.
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