I think there is an idea things remain unchanged as we age from the time when we first learned about the world.
I remember when I was young being chased by men who felt it was their right to determine I should be available sexually to them and when I informed them otherwise they felt it was their right to correct my understanding of the situation.
This would cause me to run like hell through traffic to avoid these men, sometimes running towards police cars only to have the police car to drive off while I was on foot.
In these cases I evaded these pursuers. Most men will take no for an answer but it is nevertheless extremely unnerving.
It didn’t matter what I was wearing, how much I weighed, what time of day, men have asked and harassed me for sex. I genuinely hope it is no longer like this for younger women but sexism was everywhere when I was younger, including and especially in the workplace, but I don’t know what it’s like now because it’s been awhile since I worked for a business as a computer programmer.
I understand why computer science is worried about losing women but we are chased out one at a time, with obsessions about who our love interest may or may not be, threats and jokes… men can be all kinds of awful/horrifying in private… when no one else can see what they are doing or hear what they are saying.
I know men will often say: but not all men. But you have to wonder which are the good ones? It might take a long time on the internet to find out. But you have to if you plan to marry one of them and hope to be treated well.
I hope it’s not like this anymore for young women but I have no idea and I doubt it.
I remember when I was young being chased by men who felt it was their right to determine I should be available sexually to them and when I informed them otherwise they felt it was their right to correct my understanding of the situation.
This would cause me to run like hell through traffic to avoid these men, sometimes running towards police cars only to have the police car to drive off while I was on foot.
In these cases I evaded these pursuers. Most men will take no for an answer but it is nevertheless extremely unnerving.
It didn’t matter what I was wearing, how much I weighed, what time of day, men have asked and harassed me for sex. I genuinely hope it is no longer like this for younger women but sexism was everywhere when I was younger, including and especially in the workplace, but I don’t know what it’s like now because it’s been awhile since I worked for a business as a computer programmer.
I understand why computer science is worried about losing women but we are chased out one at a time, with obsessions about who our love interest may or may not be, threats and jokes… men can be all kinds of awful/horrifying in private… when no one else can see what they are doing or hear what they are saying.
I know men will often say: but not all men. But you have to wonder which are the good ones? It might take a long time on the internet to find out. But you have to if you plan to marry one of them and hope to be treated well.
I hope it’s not like this anymore for young women but I have no idea and I doubt it.
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