communication skills

I seldom fight with my husband so imagine my surprise when I laughed about this song and my husband called me bitter. I was like 'huh???!' I said, the girl had probably been waiting for some communication from the guy but he'd been all stoic about keeping all his feelings to himself. She probably spent hours on the phone to her friends asking them, 'why doesn't he speak to me any more?' and they all offer all kinds of puzzled replies. He probably tipped his hat at her and to him meant he was madly in love with her but was no longer able to speak to her because he was too in love. Meanwhile she ponders what the hat tip meant. Her friends by now are getting sick of her puzzlement, because, heck, they've had sex, in the above song, and he seemed really into her.

Eventually her friends advise her to move on because it hurts them listening to her cry and they can't explain the situation either. Disappointingly she moves on, realizing what she thought had been going on wasn't really going on at all. So she goes out again and meets someone else. She still carries a soft spot for him so she goes over to him... and says hey before she leaves with someone else.

Then the guy has a melt-down, in the song and paints the poor girl out to be a villain. And my husband calls me bitter while I am laughing about the stupidity of the situation.

Finally, we are watching Babylon 5, a definite favorite of my husband, and Garibaldi sees his ex- on Mars and he's hoping to get back with her, I think, and she's married someone else. I said to my husband: see?!?!? He saw what I meant then. Of course my husband tries to justify Garibaldi but its the same old story.

As you see, its a very common phenomena, as it happens in 'flame trees' and for the guy who put this youtube vid together for Vicky. I know its happened to me, but I am not bitter, I just moved on. I've thought I'd gotten on really well with a guy and then he suddenly stops talking to me. I move on and years later the next thing I know he's on my door step wanting me to know if we can get back together. I scratch my head and ask why didn't he call like 5 years ago. He looks pale and I say I've moved on.

Guys get your act together. If you like someone, FFS, tell her or sooner or later she will move on.

Jane Austen even knew this, but she would have people intercede on the lover's behalf. In Pride & Prejudice, she had lady catherine de burgh communicating on behalf of Lizzy and Darcy. Lizzy and Darcy interceded for Jane & Bingley. Only Charlotte was able to act on her own behalf cos she didn't love Mr Collins, not like Mary did.

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